The number one thing that has improved our marriage relationship is PRAYER. Bill and I have learned that when we fail to pray together, our relationship is vulnerable or weak to the pressures of everyday life. Prayer is a powerful way to connect with your spouse and develop intimacy.
We encourage couples to find a prayer devotional they like, and begin a practice of spending time in prayer together. It will be the single most important spiritual discipline you and your spouse will share.
- Do you long for more intimacy in your relationship? Praying together will catapult you to new levels of intimacy beyond what you imagined.
- Is there conflict in your marriage? Praying together will help resolve arguments and possibly prevent disagreements.
- Do you desire more authenticity in your marriage? Spending time in prayer together is guaranteed to open your hearts to one another.
- Do you fear the future or have worry and anxiety? Praying with your spouse will bring peace to your stormy hearts, marriage and family.
If you are struggling with a particular sin and afraid to confess it to your spouse, prayer is your answer. Bill and I can emphatically state these things because we have seen it happen in our own marriage. In fact, we have discerned that when we stopped praying together is when our marriage began to fall apart. Prayer brings you and your spouse before God, before His throne of mercy, so that you can find the help you need in due time. Believe me, PRAYER WORKS!
To help you get started, begin with praying this simple prayer with your spouse:
Dear God, thank you for the gift of marriage. We acknowledge that you are the source of true love. We want our relationship to be filled with your love. Be our strength when challenges come and help us to rely on the power of your Holy Spirit to hold us together. We ask You for the discipline that is needed in order to seek You daily. Replace selfishness with humility, resentment with compassion, anger with gentleness and conflict with Your peace. We desire to be one together, make us one, LORD, in every area and decision. We surrender our plans and agendas to you. We want Your will to be manifested in our marriage, family and home. It is our desire that You be glorified in our marriage.
UNITY WITH THE WORD
One last discipline Bill and I have discovered together that has improved our relationship is reading scripture together. For almost a year solid, Bill would read I Corinthians chapter 13 over us daily. He read from the Children’s Living Bible translation because we like how it speaks. Some of you may have had this portion of scripture read at your wedding.
It is a powerful reminder to the love we need to receive and give to one another. You can print this out and put it somewhere in your home to keep before you. God’s word is an excellent plumb line to keep us in proper balance with Him and one another.
I Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is very patient and kind, never jealous or envious, never boastful or proud, never haughty or selfish or rude.
Love does not demand its own way. It is not irritable or touchy.
It does not hold grudges and will hardly even notice when others do it wrong.
It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out.
If you love someone you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost.
You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him and always stand your ground in defending him.
Staying connected to your spouse requires work. It is not always easy. However, I firmly believe there are no bad days…only days when we need more of God’s grace. Turn to God in prayer and trust Him, because with Him all things are possible.
Love Life…..One Day At A Time.